*If you or someone you know needs immediate help, call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) or TTY 1-800-787-3224.*
Domestic violence is a terrible situation to be involved in and fortunately, it is something that I have not had to personally witness or endure. Yet hearing accounts from family members and friends, and seeing the havoc it has wreaked on so many, has forced me to really take into consideration the massive problem we have on our hands as a collective culture.
A few weeks ago, when the whole Ray Rice controversy was just brewing, I made the mistake of watching the TMZ footage of his “elevator knockout” and the following press conference where he apologized for “the events that took place” that night as if it were a freaking carnival with a cocktail hour, in reference to him serving his then-girlfriend-now-wife Janay Palmer a T.K.O.
As disturbing as that footage was to see, it really made me think…..
When I watched the footage from the Rice press conference I couldn’t help but wonder why Janay Palmer would stay with Ray Rice after such a brutal attack on her being? Was it a lack of self respect? Did she believe she was unworthy of anything better? Did she believe she would not be able to be financially stable if she left Rice?
The latter point brought me to some interesting findings.
Domestic violence and financial abuse often times go hand-in-hand. 98% of domestic violence victims and survivors report that financial abuse was the #1 reason they would stay, leave, or return to an abusive relationship.
Think about it. If you’re the primary caregiver in a home, attending to small children for example and your partner is bringing in the income, it must seem impossible to think that you could pick up and leave an abusive situation without knowing that you and your children could survive?
New evidence from the Center on Violence Against Women and Children at Rutgers University School of Social Work indicates that boosting a survivor’s financial literacy, skills and resources can create a path toward long-term safety and security for survivors.
That’s why I’ve joined the The Allstate Foundation in the Purple Purse Challenge in spreading awareness . The Allstate Foundation is investing more than half a million dollars in the Purple Purse Challenge. The more donations each nonprofit gets, the more it can compete for Allstate Foundation incentive funding.
Allstate Foundation Purple Purse is making easier – even fashionable – to talk about domestic violence and the financial abuse that traps people in abusive relationships. The program ignites fundraising for more than 140 national, state and local domestic violence organizations. Funds raised will support life-changing financial empowerment services to help domestic violence survivors build safer lives for themselves and their families. Allstate Foundation Purple Purse aims to break the cycle of violence in our nation – one family at a time.
Please Go to PurplePurse.com between Sept. 2 and Oct. 3 (not much time so act now) to join the challenge, make a contibution, raise awareness and help a nonprofit near you.
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